Processing Your Pain with Emotional Intelligence
2 friends Mike and Christian passed away this week.
Processing Grief not just for them, but for what could have been.
If we can learn to change our relationship with pain, we don’t need these things anymore
If we can learn to be ok with suffering and not reject ourselves and run away, we can keep our hearts open and move on.
I know it hurts.
But on the other side there is joy, freedom, love, and there might be more pain, but I promise it’s not forever.
You are a gift to this world.
The pain will pass and you’ll find on the other side you understand yourself more once you go through it.
If it’s still difficult, place your hand on your heart and acknowledge your pain.
I am here.
This pain is important.
I am willing to feel it.
Soften and allow it to pass.
Your pain is not you.
Your addiction is not you.
You are a light in the world.
Being able to hold space for different personality types
Victim-hood can be defined by the three positions beautifully outlined in a diagram developed by a well respected psychiatrist, and teacher of Transactional Analysis, named Stephen Karpman. He calls it the “Drama Triangle,” I refer to it as the victim triangle. Having discovered this resource some thirty years ago, it has become one of the more important tools in my personal and professional life. The more I teach and apply the victim triangle to a relationship the deeper my appreciation grows for this simple, powerfully accurate instrument.
Living in reality requires truth. To tell the truth, we first must first know what it is. When we react out of denied feelings and unconscious programming, we cannot possibly know our personal truth. This means we will not be in touch with reality. There will be hidden agendas and dishonesty. This is another primary trait of all players on the triangle. Only by knowing our truth, can we begin to speak from a place of personal integrity. Then exiting the triangle becomes possible.